There is a storm many women wake up in—not because it just began, but because we finally stop convincing ourselves it’s rain when it’s really emotional warfare.
At first, it looked like love. Passion. Destiny. He knew your soul before you spoke a word. He called you a divine goddess, magnetic, his muse. But over time, his mask slips. The warmth fades. The gut twinges become a roar. And the goddess within whispers:
“This is not love. This is a spell.”
Narcissistic Abuse Is More Than Psychological—It’s Spiritual Warfare
This kind of abuse isn't just a matter of mean words or toxic behavior. It's energetic theft. Soul entrapment. Reverse Alchemy. It’s shadow work forced upon you by someone who refuses to do their own.
A narcissist doesn’t just wound—they project their unhealed shadow onto you and force you to carry it like a cross. What they can't face in themselves, they smear all over you. And you begin to wonder if you are the problem. If you are broken. If maybe, just maybe, you deserve this.
But if you’re reading this, you already know better. Some part of you remembers. And that remembering is sacred.
What Is Narcissistic Abuse?
It is a pattern of emotional and energetic manipulation by someone who lacks empathy and thrives on control. Their charm is illusion. Their love is bait. Their attention is performance. And their wounds? Weaponized.
They often arrive in soulmate wrapping—twin flame, karmic bond, spiritual mirror. But this isn’t about divine union. It’s about the goddess awakening from a dark enchantment and reclaiming her throne.
The Sacred Signs: How to Identify Narcissistic Abuse
Here are 25 signs of narcissistic abuse—decoded energetically and psychologically. If you recognize more than a few, you may be under the influence of someone siphoning your soul-light.
1. Gaslighting
The narcissist distorts your perception of reality so deeply that you begin to question your own memories, feelings, and instincts. You start apologizing for things you didn’t do. You lose trust in yourself. This is a psychic attack meant to sever your connection to your inner truth.
2. Emotional Abuse
Sarcasm, shame, blame, guilt-tripping, or veiled insults wear you down over time. Your nervous system becomes dysregulated. Your heart chakra closes. You start living in survival mode, afraid of emotional landmines.
3. Judging & Projection: The Reverse Alchemy of Blame The narcissist is the ultimate judge, jury, and executioner—not just projecting, but actively condemning your essence through their own unhealed wounds. Their internal self-loathing becomes external criticism. They accuse you of their own sins—calling you selfish, manipulative, or disloyal—when in truth, they are revealing their own shadow. This disorients your energetic field and corrupts your self-image, pulling you into karmic loops of guilt and spiritual amnesia.
4. Twisting the Truth
Conversations become mental labyrinths. When confronted with facts, they rewrite history and use word salad to spin you in circles. They make themselves the victim and you the aggressor. This gaslights your timeline and disorients your sense of truth.
5. Lack of Empathy
They are emotionally unavailable and indifferent to your pain. They will blame and shame you for wounds you have from past traumas, degrading you for things you survived. You can cry in front of them and receive no genuine comfort. This creates deep loneliness even in their presence.
6. Pathological Lying
They lie effortlessly—about big things and small. Lies are used to control, manipulate, or avoid responsibility. You start to question what’s real and lose your grip on clarity.
7. Silent Treatment
They withdraw affection or attention as a punishment. This activates your abandonment wounds and makes you crave their approval—training you like a puppet on strings.
8. Sabotage
They undermine your confidence, your relationships, your dreams. They discourage your goals or subtly plant seeds of doubt. It’s not accidental—it’s strategic. If you rise, they lose control.
9. Grandiosity
They exaggerate their talents, accomplishments, or importance. They see themselves as superior and expect admiration. Any threat to their giant fragile ego becomes an attack.
10. Emotional Blackmail
They use your fears, secrets, or empathy against you. They might threaten to leave, withhold love, or guilt-trip you to maintain control. Your will becomes entangled with their approval.
11. Competition Instead of Connection
They view relationships as power dynamics, not partnerships. They one-up you, outshine you, and subtly compete rather than co-create. Love turns into rivalry.
12. Love Bombing
In the beginning, they shower you with affection, attention, and praise. It feels like fate. But it’s a hook. Once you’re attached, the affection turns to criticism and confusion.
13. Financial Abuse
They may control your money, create debt in your name, or make you financially dependent. This attacks your root chakra and keeps you from leaving.
14. Invasion of Privacy
They read your messages, track your movements, or demand full access to your life. This breaks your energetic boundaries and creates constant anxiety.
15. Arrogance & Superiority
They diminish your ideas, interrupt you, talk over you, or act as though they’re always right. Over time, you begin to silence yourself and suppress your light to keep the peace.
16. Character Assassination
They spread lies or twisted truths to isolate you from others. This is a spiritual war tactic—to disempower you by removing your support system. The smear campaign against you begins long before you even notice it.
17. Negative Comparison
You are often compared to others—exes, strangers, even celebrities—in a way that erodes your self-worth. Your uniqueness is never celebrated, only diminished.
18. Entitlement
They believe they deserve special treatment and view your boundaries as insults. When they don’t get what they want, they retaliate.
19. Withholding Love or Support
They control you by giving and withdrawing affection, sex, or help unpredictably. This creates an addictive cycle of craving and rejection—trauma bonding.
20. Manipulation
Every compliment, apology, or gesture comes with a hidden motive. You’re being moved like a piece on their chessboard, not honored as a partner.
21. Playing the Victim
When confronted, they deflect with drama. Suddenly, they’re the wounded one. This manipulates your empathy and shifts the blame.
22. Ignoring Your Success
They downplay or ignore your wins. Your joy makes them uncomfortable. Their silence becomes a form of emotional punishment.
23. Hoovering
After distancing or a breakup, they return with false remorse or lovebombing to reel you back in. This is not healing—it’s a control tactic.
24. Conversation Domination
They dominate every conversation, rarely ask anything about you, and show little interest in your inner world. They really don’t ever get to know you at all in fact. Your voice disappears in their echo chamber.
25. Exploitation
You are a source of energy, not a sacred being. They take your time, your gifts, your body, and your love—offering crumbs in return.
But If You’re Nodding Right Now…
Let me tell you what your spirit already knows:
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You’re not crazy.
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You’re not too sensitive.
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You’re not imagining things.
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You’re not the problem.
You are waking up.
The spell is breaking.
And you are returning to yourself.
What You Can Do Now: Reclaiming Your Divine Self
1. Name the Spell
Call it what it is. Naming breaks enchantment. Say it aloud: “This is narcissistic abuse.” “This is energetic violation.” “This is not love—it’s control.”
2. Anchor Into Truth and Ritual
Journal your memories. Speak your pain. Cleanse your space. Sit with your soul and listen. The oracle is awakening within you. Your truth was never gone—it was just buried beneath the noise.
3. Create Energetic Distance
Distance is protection. Whether it’s no contact, gray rock, or spiritual cord cutting—space is medicine. This entity cannot thrive in the light of your awakening.
4. Gather Your Light Tribe
You don’t need a thousand people. Just a sacred few who mirror back your truth. Trauma-informed therapists, wise women, soul sisters, spiritual mentors. Find the ones who see your light—and reflect it, not reject it.
5. Begin the Alchemy
You are not just surviving—you are transforming. This pain is the crucible. Let it forge you. This is the death of the false self and the rise of the wild woman. The mystic. The queen.
Final Words from One Sister to Another
You were never foolish for loving.
You were never weak for hoping.
You were loyal. You were devoted.
But now—your eyes are open.
And from this day forward, you choose yourself.
Not in bitterness.
Not in revenge.
But in resurrection.
Your light was never theirs to dim. Your soul was never meant to be sacrificed.
You are the oracle, the phoenix, the storm, and the calm.
So take your power back—
Piece by piece.
Breath by breath.
Spell by broken spell.
You are not broken.
You are becoming.
With fire, grace, and light,
Drea da Vinci
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